Monday, April 8, 2013

Faces of Deception

My maternal grandparents 1945 so my mother was an infant. When I think of what my mother claims this man is guilty of the image is disturbing. They seem like a happy normal couple not the monsters I've imagined they were. But I know deception well, things aren't always as they seem. Most might see a nice piece of my family history, for me its looking into the eyes of the monster that destroyed my mother.
For the purpose of this blog I'm going to be brutally graphic just as my mother was. What you are witnessing is the transfer of her drunken voice to my sober voice. I don't often share these details because they are so disturbing. My children have heard the story told with a sober voice my grandchildren will only have to hear if they want to know, I will direct them here.
First I only tried the nastiest of what she had to say. If these are true there's no reason to doubt the others. She says there was never any penetration but one of the older stories she claims her father and his brother made her suck their dicks if she was good they'd give her a quarter...she claims her father tied the boys to a chair and made them watch him molest my mother...his parents would Chase her shed hide under her bed they'd pull her out by her hair and lick her pussy, this is how she told it over and over as far back as I can remember...he would jack off in her face...they were in the local paper for eating out of the trash when her mom owned a restaurant...they slept in the park, on the streets to get away from the abuse...the story that had the greatest impact, to punish her he locked her in a coal bin, for many years I had no clue what that was, I pictured her in a dark basement, I was in my 30's before I saw a coal bin!
One might say why tell your children this horrid detail? Because no one else would listen, I don't blame her I blame those who knew and did nothing I blame anyone who could have done something but chose to do nothing. It hasn't been easy but I have no regrets as there are still millions of children suffering in silence to them this detail will help them s get rid of the shame and guilt thats left behind in the aftermath of this unspeakable act of child abuse.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Dedication

To my mother...RIP Frances Dawn Wimmer April 17, 1945 to September 3, 2012...my mother is the inspiration for my voice. I now understand she was ahead of her time by way of her desperate need to speak out. She came from a generation of keeping secrets, making deals with her father, her silence if he left her two little brothers alone. From the age of 6-12 my mother endured many acts of  violence believing she was protecting her brothers to finally catch him in the act, she's been speaking out every since. There were a total of 9, her two little brothers didn't live to tell, she is the only one who is willing to tell her story. She lived a life in survivors guilt because she couldn't protect her two brothers as a result they both have a place here on this blog. David lived to the age of 33, he left behind 5 children I'd like to think maybe someday I will find. Charles lost his battle young,19 he left nothing, without my mothers voice he would have no place here. As for the rest of my mothers siblings, there are only two.left, an older brother she claims might talk to me, and a sister who won't talk. But its ok I no longer need confirmation, her stories have been well tried to find there's no way she could be consistent 40 years of telling the same stories and be lying. I believe my mom!
Severe molestation by a family member, this is mans highest moral crime. We need a zero tolerance for this act, we need to all get involved speak up, speak out and defend our children.
I love and miss my mom, by all common law right she is in a better place. But her purpose is far from finished her story is already helping others through the power of my sober voice. Which is only possible because I listened to her drunken stories with a strong need for truth.